What do you do when a stranger approaches you in the dark and you can’t believe you’ve got an empty glass in your hand?
You go into a mode of panic and get your glass of water.
But wait, there’s more.
Here’s what you need to know about how to get past the cold drinker:How to break ice with strangers in the nightThe first thing you need is your phone and a little bit of time.
The idea here is that you’ll be trying to get your date or a stranger to stop talking to you.
The more you get them to stop, the better.
You’ll be able to say: “Hi, I’ve got a date for tonight.”
Then, you’ll need to be calm, not angry, and have a good idea of the situation.
And you should know your limits.
If you’re talking about a date, say “I have a date tomorrow, so we’ll meet at 10pm.”
If you’re chatting with a group of friends or family, say:”I have to talk to you before we go to the movie, because we’re all watching a movie tonight, so let’s start the movie.”
If a stranger is approaching you in a bar, say:”Can I talk to your manager about this?”
It’s ok to say no, but don’t be scared, say something like, “Hi.
I’ve been in a few bars and I don’t have a lot of friends, but I have this friend who is great and I’d love to hang out with her.”
If someone asks you to “go home and make dinner,” say, “I don’t like making dinner, so I’m just going to go to my room and watch a movie.”
When someone stops talking to the person you’re trying to break down, you can say,”Hi, how are you?” or “What’s up?” or simply “Hey, how’s it going?” and then get back to your phone.
If the person responds, “fine,” you can go ahead and start talking.
Then, as the conversation progresses, say, “…and what would you like to do tonight?”
The next thing you’ll want to know is whether you’re alone.
If so, it’s a good time to say “Hey.
I have a boyfriend,” or “I want to make dinner.”
If you can make it through the first part without asking anyone to leave, that’s great.
But if you’re having a date with your boyfriend or girlfriend and they’re sitting at the bar, they’re probably trying to talk about you.
And if you don’t want to do it, say so.
If they continue to talk, say that you’re “ready to go,” or you want to “take a break,” or whatever.
If you get a friend or family member to leave or they stop talking, it means you’re not alone.
This is a sign that the conversation is in progress and you need some space to talk.
It’s ok if the person stays after dinner.
If not, just say “Let’s go, I have dinner with friends.”
If your date stops talking, you’ve just gotten a cold.
It could be the first cold ever.
You might even have to start a new date with a different person.
You need to go back to the room and try again.
But the best way to do this is to get a glass of wine, something you can sip while you talk to the stranger.
If your friend or girlfriend stops talking after a few minutes, say to yourself, “This is not the right time.”
Then just get back on the phone and say something along the lines of, “What do you want me to do?” or you can tell them to “make dinner.”
Then you’ll have a drink and make some friends.